Dear Sir. Dear Miss.

  
dear sir,
you met a woman. you fell in love. real love. true love. She’s the one.
Maybe you’re just beginning and you haven’t realised it yet, but you know you’re captivated by her. Her beauty is unmatched in your eyes. The dimples in her smile never fail to make you smile yourself. The conversations that go on for hours, always leave you wanting more. You want to learn all there is to learn about her and her mind. the way her mind works has the ability to leave you speechless at times. And sometimes, she’s all you can think about. It’s fresh; it’s new; it’s different than anything and anyone before her. She amazes you daily…
Or maybe you’ve nestled into your love, and all its familiarities, inside jokes, coupled habits and traditions. You recognise your love of this woman and have accepted her love for you. you see just how good she is for you. She sees things in you that you have never quite seen in yourself, both good and bad. She supports you. Your own personal fan club and cheerleader. Her support of you gives you an extra push and a strength that can’t quite be put into words. She’s all you’ve ever wanted and more than you ever imagined you needed.
And then maybe you’ve realised she’s the one and have accepted all the joys and responsibilities of making her a permanent and irreplaceable part of your life. You’ve vowed to provide for her and protect her. To be her rock and guidance whenever she needs. You cannot see your life without her. She is the mother, or future mother, of your children. your best friend, your voice of reason, your sense of home. For all the happiness and celebrations of life, you want her by your side. All the heartaches, obstacles, and strife in life, you want to face with her.
You met a woman. you fell in love.
real love.
true love.
And you know you will grow with her. You know you will grow old with her. And you look forward to every monumental moment life has in store for the both of you…together.

dear miss,
you met a man. you fell in love. real love. true love. He’s the one.
Maybe you’re just beginning and you haven’t realised it yet, but you know you get butterflies whenever you think of him. You find yourself daydreaming about his eyes. Laughing at his jokes quietly to yourself when he’s not around. He’s kind and chivalrous, which makes you feel soft and feminine. He’s selfless and thoughtful, which makes you appreciate him. Talking with him, laughing with him, and being wrapped in his arms makes you melt. He’s got you floating on a cloud. And it’s a little bit scary, feeling this way. You already have some scars, but something tells you he’s different…
Or maybe you’ve nestled into your love, and all its familiarities, inside jokes, coupled habits and traditions. You’re finally seeing yourself for the wonderful person you are, and your love of him has been enhanced by your love of self. You recognise your love of this man and have accepted his love for you. You envision a future with him. Marriage, mortgages, children, anniversaries… You’re no longer clouded by the excitement of new beginnings, but now know him for who he is and accept all of him; as he does you. He is everything you’ve ever needed and what you never even realised you wanted.
And then maybe you’ve realised he’s the one and have accepted all the joys and responsibilities of making him a permanent and irreplaceable part of your life. You’ve vowed to support him and face every storm and resulting rainbow right by his side. He is your laughter, your listening ear, your warm embrace. The father, or future father, of your children. For all the happiness and celebrations of life, you want him by your side. All the heartaches, obstacles, and strife in life, you want to face with him.
You met a man. you fell in love.
real love.
true love.
And you know you will grow with him. You know you will grow old with him. And you look forward to every monumental moment life has in store for the both of you…together.

And now I ask you, dear sir and dear miss… Would you stop? Could you stop? If someone asked you, demanded you, to fall out of love; would you? If someone told you love was bad, would you believe them? If someone said to you “someone told me you shouldn’t be in love”, would you agree? You know your love. Your love changed your life. You love someone fully without worry, without hesitation, with total trust. Someone loves you fully, without ulterior motives, with massive appreciation, with their whole heart. If someone told you to change your mind and throw that love aside, would you easily submit to what you know isn’t right? Would you submit to a will not your own?

Then why ask this of someone else? Just wondering.

Sincerely,
One Lesbian, thinking out loud.

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